Women Branching Out Interviews
Women Branching Out: Bari Tessler
Today we are featuring financial therapist, mentor coach, and mompreneur Bari Tessler as part of the Women Branching Out interview series.
Bari helps people work on their relationships with money through private coaching and her online program The Art of Money {affiliate link}.
The Art of Money is an 11 month community program, featuring guest teachers Julie Daley, Nona Jordan, Alexis Neely, and more. It begins February 1st.
Here’s Bari…
Tell us about your business. What do you do and who do you love to serve?
I am a financial therapist, a mentor coach, and I lead an online money program, The Art of Money. My work integrates all of my previous training as a body-centered psychotherapist, with all of the tools, systems and planning of bookkeeping and financial planning, that I surprisingly fell in love with (and needed myself) in my late 20s. I love to support women, couples, and creative entrepreneurs.
Since 2001, I have been teaching my money work in every format imaginable (via live in-person workshops and on-line tele-courses and home study programs).
Over the years I have been through a few different biz models to honor and accommodate my phases of life and my growing biz community. For a few years, I had a whole team of bookkeepers and financial coaches under my umbrella. Then, with the birth of my son in 2008 (just as I was turning 40 years old), I shifted back to a one-woman rockin’ show to simplify again. I still collaborate with and refer to other key money support team partners.
As I was approaching 2013, and heading into my 44 birthday, I realized it was finally time for a conscious money movement. Something had matured inside of me and I was ready to reach a much wider community.
So, I dreamed up and crafted my new 11 month program, The Art of Money. This program integrates my tried and true method: An integration of Money Healing, Money Practices and Money Maps. And, weaves together individual, couple and creative entrepreneurial money teachings.
I am the main guide and resident financial therapist in The Art of Money. I have also gathered amazing guest teachers to teach on additional money topics from kids to careers, from debt to ritual, from Enneagram to gender issues. I am so excited about this current phase of my biz and feel it is the most heart-guided and vision-guided program ever.
I also offer private financial therapy and mentor coaching for 11 clients at a time.
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Why do you think it is important that we improve our relationship with money?
Our relationship to money — having a healthy + mature + loving + playful relationship to money — is simply one of the big areas of life to honor and give our attention to.
I’m not talking about bringing an obsessive attention to it, but the right amount of attention and care. Similar to taking care of our health and our bodies, finding our right relationship to work-career, cultivating healthy dynamics with the people closest to us. Our relationship to money is up there with the big ones in this beautiful, precious + challenging human life.
Money was not taught, to the majority of us, from grade school on up in small increments. We simply were not taught these things.
We weren’t taught how to understand our feelings about money, how to manage money, how to speak about money.
It’s time to go back and in fill in those gaps.
We project so much onto our money relationship and the concept of money (earning it, spending it, giving it, receiving it, losing it, borrowing it, loaning it, investing it, exchanging it). It’s ripe territory, where so much is happening emotionally and psychologically — and we simply were not taught how to make sense of it all in a healing way.
This work is still in shadow. It’s slowly coming out of the shadowlands, of taboolands — and I’m here to help that process along, in a big way. We need gallops of awareness, learning, forgiving, tools and skill sets.
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What’s the first bit of advice you give clients who come to you overwhelmed by their current money situation?
First, I share my favorite tool for money awareness, un-shaming, understanding and forgiveness, called the Body Check-In. This will support them to get present, notice their feelings, learn more about their money story and then ask it to have a seat next to you so you can engage with it, instead of being consumed by it.
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What changes have you seen in the lives of your clients when they started to have a more loving and honest relationship with money?
Here are a few of my favorite benefits of money work:
- Peace of mind, clarity, and compassion in your money relationship
Deeper understanding and acceptance of the phases (the peaks and valleys) in money and in life
Productive, loving + fun money conversations with your partner (yes, I know you will be moving mountains when you do this)
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How has the experience of coaching others through their money stories impacted your life?
I have really learned that this money work is a life-long practice. This is confirmed over and over by my dear community. It does not mean my clients/students will need to work with me forever! 🙂 It simply means that this work is a practice and life-long journey that will be fine-tuned and updated as we go. It is like a self-care practice for your relationship to money. There WILL BE peaks and valleys in life and in our money relationships. So, my clients and students inspire me to keep taking more steps with my own awareness, clarity and relationship to money. I continue to learn and grow.
Being able to share my work in the world has given me such a full, rich, and beautiful life and community. I love my work and community.
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What are most empowering aspects of having your own business?
Well, to be honest, I don’t think I am made to work for someone else.
I have been an entrepreneur for 11 years now. And, I love the freedom, the challenge, and the passion of this. I love being able to exercise in the middle of the day. I love being able to make my own hours. My biz is a continuing source of creativity, passion, vision, challenges, and psycho-spiritual learning, which I am very grateful for.
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What did Bari want to be when she grew up?
As a pre-teen, I was trying to decide between being a Solid-Gold Dancer or a businesswoman. By the time I hit 20, I added, psychotherapist, to the mix. I do see my work as part therapy, part business and part body-centered-dance work 🙂
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Finish this sentence. I believe …
I believe in…LOVE, PASSION, COMPASSION, CREATIVITY, SIMPLICITY, my family, dark chocolate, kindness, wildflowers, clear communication, loving boundaries, knowing who we are and who we are not, listening to our bodies wisdom as a great life tool, knowing that we ultimately have all of everything inside of us to move through life’s beauty and challenges and that support is awesome too… and I believe collaborative creative teams can bring amazing things to the world.
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Bari Tessler, M.A. is a Financial Therapist, Mentor Coach, Mama and Chocolate Lover. She is the founder of The Art of Money, (formerly Conscious Bookkeeping), which integrates Money Healing, Money Practices, and Money Maps. Bari offers online money programs as well as private Financial Therapy + Mentor Coaching for women, couples, and creative-preneurs. You can follow Bari on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.
How are you nurturing your relationship with money? Please comment below!
Women Branching Out Interviews – A Review
I’ve featured 24 awesome online business ladies in the Women Branching Out interview series since September 2011. I’ve interviewed coaches, artists, photographers, product creators, video and social media experts, and more.
I love doing these interviews because they remind me of all the different ways we can create businesses that we love and each story is so inspiring.
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Here’s a sampling of their voices:
“Be you. It’s delicious, it’s easy and it will help weed out the peeps that are NOT for you.”
Genna McWhinnie – video expert
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“Stop thinking that your meals need to look like they belong on the cover of Bon Appetit!”
Aimee Prezzano – simple living consultant
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“My advice? My advice is that you don’t need my advice. To find your voice you have to ignore everybody. Take ‘What will they think?’ out of your vocabulary.”
Mayi Carles – artist and business coach
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“Take a leadership role to run your business. It all becomes so much easier and richer when you do.”
Amber McCue – business coach
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“I believe that businesses first have to be irresistible to the business owner. We have to love what we do with such a deep passion because there are days when it’s hard and you don’t want to do any of it and you wish you’d never thought of it.”
Sarah Robinson – business coach, author
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“Shoot photos first and foremost from your emotions and the technical stuff can follow.”
Alethea Cheng Fitzpatrick – photography coach for parents
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“Be the giver, don’t wait until you are making millions. Start today. Find a need and give.”
Erin Giles – business philanthropy coach
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“THE BEST THING YOU CAN POSSIBLY DO FOR YOURSELF IS TO BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT. IMAGINE IT, IN AS MUCH DETAIL AS POSSIBLE. THINK ABOUT IT AS THOUGH YOU ALREADY HAVE IT. THEN…TAKE RISKS. DO THE SCARY THING. DO THE EXCITING THING. START OUT SMALL, TAKING ONE STEP AT A TIME, AND THEN RAMP IT UP.”
Sally Hope – life coach
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“If you are a mom and an entrepreneur, you have already stepped outside of the rat race that so many people are still stuck in. You are reclaiming the value of your vision for the world and for your children and that really matters.”
Christyna Lewis – financial coach
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Chances are you’ve missed out on quite a few of these interviews. Here’s a guide to them all:
Sarah Robinson – business coach
Melissa Dinwiddie – artist and inspirationalist
Barbara Coon – CranioSacral therapist
Sarah Wagner Yost – life and business coach
Irene Gutteridge Lyon – body scientist
Andrea Lewicki – mindfulness expert
Christyna Lewis – financial coach
Michelle Nickolaisen – business systems expert
Hannah Marcotti – life and business coach
Miki DeVivo – photographer
Nanci Panuccio – writer and writing coach
Sally Hope – life coach
Cathy Anderson – organizational products
Jennifer Peek – business coach
Kimberly Riggins – body image expert
Genna McWhinnie – video expert
Mayi Carles – artist and business coach
Erin Giles – philanthropy coach
Alethea Cheng Fitzpatrick – photography coach for parents
Sammi Johnson – social media expert
Amber McCue – business coach
Alana Sheeren – grief and loss coach
Aimee Prezzano – simple living consultant
Angela Privin – digestive health coach
More interviews coming soon…
Watch for a new interview with financial therapist, coach, and mompreneur, Bari Tessler to kick off the 2013 Women Branching Out interview series, next week!
I’m always looking for great business stories. If you know someone who’s doing great things in their online business, leave a comment below to let me know!
Women Branching Out: Angela Privin
Today we have digestive health coach, Angela Privin of Do It Yourself Health on the blog as part of the Women Branching Out interview series.
Angela helps people heal their digestive issues and learn to take a more hands-on, DIY approach to managing their health.
Here’s Angela…
Tell us about your business. What do you do and who do you love to serve?
My business, Do It Yourself Health, is focused on helping people heal their digestive issues but my approach is to educate, inspire and empower people to take their health in their hands. I think everyone is capable of self-healing. We give too much of our own healing power over to doctors and yet sometime doctors can make things worse.
The people that I work with are usually highly sensitive. They have a tendency towards overwhelm AND highly attuned intuition. These intuitive abilities make them natural healers, yet the overwhelm can drown out that intuitive voice.
I help people get past their overwhelm. I quiet down the confusion and support them in finding their intuitive healing path. It is an amazing process to help people find their own healing power.
When people are confident in their own healing abilities, they can deal with any health issue that comes up. They no longer feel helpless.
What kinds of reactions do you get when you tell people that you have a self-taught degree in Poop?
Well, I don’t exactly start the conversation that way but when it does come up it definitely loosens people up. Because I use humor and laughter in my approach, it encourages lightness and helps people relax. That can help melt shame around the topic.
I can’t tell you how many people suffer in silence with digestive issues because they are too shamed to talk about poop. I hope that my openness around “poop talk” can help others break through their silence. Shame serves little healing purpose.
How did being diagnosed with IBS change your life?
I was on a completely different trajectory in my life when I was diagnosed at age 28. I lived in Manhattan and worked as a financial journalist. My life was all about achieving so I could feel good about myself. Getting sick and having no good options for healing myself (my doctors told me I would have Irritable Bowel Syndrome for LIFE!) allowed me to shift my priorities and discover my real purpose on this planet: healing. Myself first. Then the world.
I stopped caring about impressing. I didn’t care about being a walking resume, I just wanted to feel good again. Being in constant discomfort was ruining my life! I decided to move from New York to San Francisco with the sole purpose of healing myself. It was the best decision of my life. New York City is not an ideal place for a highly sensitive person.
My digestive issues were my teacher and I was a pretty good student. I studied nutrition and tried everything under the sun until I finally healed myself. After years of failed attempts, I achieved a complete cure. You can read more about how I did that on my site.
For the last 8 years I have been symptom-free, food allergy-free (yes, I actually healed my food allergies!) and never had a relapse. It feels like a miracle.
I went on to study health from a different perspective, dealing with the emotional and spiritual components of healing to compliment my nutritional knowledge. Sharing what I’ve learned with the world feels like my purpose in life. I want to transform people’s lives through their digestion.
What are some of the biggest misconceptions about IBS?
People with IBS think they have defective bowels. They believe what their doctor says about IBS being incurable. IBS is not a lifestyle, it’s simply a sign that your body is out of balance.
The good news about imbalance is that it can be balanced! There is a cure for IBS and other digestive issues. This has been my life experience and you can’t argue with experience.
Lastly, pharmaceuticals can’t heal digestion. Drugs only mask symptoms, which prevent us from hearing what our body is telling us.
What’s the first bit of advice you give clients who come to you with digestive issues to help them start taking their health into their own hands?
To observe, observe, and observe! I don’t believe there’s a one size fits all cure. Healing digestion is a trial and error process. The only way to speed up that process is to get very aware of what your body is telling to you.
I encourage people to write down how they feel after each meal. It is also useful to write down how they feel when they are craving something. What emotions come up? When they have a digestive health episode it’s helpful to journal about what else happened that day.
Bringing awareness to what’s going on with your emotions and body is the key to being “a Superhealer.” But practicing this type of awareness is often tough for people. That’s why a good health coach can be a mirror for what’s really going on with you and can help you identify patterns you can’t see.
Awareness and tuning into your body is the best healing practice in the world. It is also the hardest!
What are some of the benefits of having a healthy and happy digestive system?
So many. Too many to name actually but I’ll pick two.
The immune system is closely connected to digestion. Actually, most of the immune system is located in the gut. After I healed my gut I noticed that frequent colds, flus and seasonal allergies were no longer a problem. The new and improved Angela never gets sick.
In fact, my immune system is so strong that I’m practically cocky about it. It makes me feel invincible!
Another huge benefit of healing digestion is that it supports the liver, which in turn clears up skins, balances metabolism (hello healthy weight!) and improves mood and energy levels.
Finish this sentence. I believe…
That IBS and digestive issues CAN and SHOULD be healed! Ignoring your body’s messages to you and staying sick is like avoiding your destiny and your opportunity to grow, learn and share that knowledge.
What did 7-year old Angela say she wanted to be when she grew up?
Well 7-year-old Angela wanted to be an actress and dancer. In fact, whenever my parents had people over I saw it as a “captive audience!” and an opportunity to perform my cabaret show.
My practical immigrant parents discouraged me from pursuing acting as a career. But I get to live out that dream occasionally in my business when I make videos. I love being in front of the camera.
I think that I’m in the perfect career right now. While I love performing, I’m even more drawn to healing. It’s what I was meant to contribute to the world.
What is your favorite aspect of running your own business?
I love being the one with the vision for my business and using creativity to bring my vision into the world. But one of the things that’s so amazing about starting a business is that it’s also a spiritual practice.
When I was sick and looking for a cure, there was no guarantee of success and yet I persisted anyway, despite my fears, doubts and occasional negativity.
Running a business also has no guarantees and constantly brings you face to face with your fear, doubt and negativity. I have to develop my faith muscle (a weak one for me) and stay persistent. This is the recipe for my growth and long-term success.
Is there anything else you’d like us to know about our digestive health?
Digestive health is a complicated topic. So many different things can cause issues, from heavy metal toxicity to emotional trauma. However, in my relentless study of the topic I keep coming across the same underlying cause for many different health issues. Bacterial balance in the gut.
When there aren’t enough good bacteria and too many bad guys (pathogenic bacteria, yeast, fungus or parasites) it can cause anything from food allergies, to autoimmune issues to brain fog, head aches and fatigue.
The research and science around the topic of bacteria is very young and we don’t really understand the complexities yet. But the more we learn, the more obvious it seems to me that this is the answer behind many of today “mysterious” illnesses and digestive ailments.
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Angela Privin’s love of Do-It-Yourself projects includes her health. She was able to completely heal her Irritable Bowel Syndrome diagnosis with nothing more than the right food, rest and supplements. She is chief Superhealer at www.diyhealthblog.com where she inspires and teaches people to take their health in their hands! You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.